By KT Reporter
Aged 48-years, Charlotte Komugisha, a tik tok queen in Kampala has had her cohabitation relationship with Jim with whom she has three children (aged 19, 14 & 12 years) irretrievably become broken. The two lived together since 2007 in Kabowa from where they later relocated to Makindye Kizungu zone in Lukuli.
Jim is kind-hearted and highly educated, which is why he holds a big government job at one of the MDAs. She is a beautiful Munyankole from Ntungamo-with Eli Muhwezi, Robinah Rubimbwa and a one Angel being some of her paternal parents.
During their cohabitation, which ran from 2006 to July 2018, they produced three children before irreconcilable differences relating to alleged infidelity, dishonesty, exploitation, abusive conduct, manipulation and cruelty cropped up.
Counter accusations of infidelity persisted until 2018 when she confessed cheating with some man who later demanded a refund of his 5m or else he kidnaps and harms the couple’s youngest child. The man stormed their home in Makindye Kizungu, got hold of the child and recorded a video which he sent to the mother making it clear the child’s head was going to be chopped off if his 5m wasn’t refunded.
Family members became very scared because this was the period when Nagirinya was abducted/killed and later on Susan Magara. Money had to be mobilized to soothe the anger of the self-professed kidnapper.
For eight years (2018-2025), Charlotte lived at a relative’s place in Entebbe until August last year when she forcefully and violently came back making it clear she had to live in the Kizungu mansion whether Jim liked it or not. The children pleaded with Jim to forgive and allow their mum back on grounds that she had changed-and that she had assured them she would respect him and behave like any other decent female in a home.
He reluctantly allowed for the sake of the children. Charlotte didn’t keep her word and instead caused even more chaos than she used to do before leaving the home in 2018. She demanded that Margaret Anyango, the maid and shamba boy who she found helping Jim to run the home, leave immediately and be replaced by those recruited by her.
There were also service providers like Sam Wanda for IT support services and Yokana Kahinda who used to help with dogs and chicken feeds. She harassed these ones demanding they should stop coming around. She vowed to bring her own people. She said there was no need for a maid and shamba boy since she was back and ready to do all the work herself. She never kept her word on this.
All she would do was sleep, look for where to go to visit gossiping friends, be on phone and record insultive videos for posting on tik tok where she recruited a bevy of female friends to keep attacking and character-assassinating Jim. This was after he refused to be intimate with her, and insisted on sleeping in a separate room, making it clear he didn’t feel safe having sex with her again.
Jim is a busy government official and many times returns home late. She would protest this by refusing to open the gate for him and yet the shamba boy who used to open for him had been frustrated by Charlotte. She was also abusive and would declare how he is nothing on top of her voice every now and then-in the hearing of all neighbors. Feeling worthless and totally ashamed, Jim started avoiding to attend village meetings where he used to be an active participant before Charlotte forcefully came back to the Kizungu home.
She would also threaten harm to him besides threatening to file for divorce, even when technically there is no marriage between them which can be subject to divorce proceedings. It’s simply cohabitation and every lawyer who tells her this fact, gets dropped and replaced. This is why she has been changing lawyers severally since the divorce case was first filed last September. Over the years, he spent money on her including seeing her though S6 and going on to sponsor her education at the UCU Kampala campus in Mengo where she did business management (the bitter truth of the matter is that Charlotte comes from a poor background and had a deprived childhood).
Earlier on, she had trained in ECD and nursery teaching, an engagement during which she made many male friends, which made her become rude to Jim once back home. He made for her businesses including super markets and grocery shops in Kampala-but all of them collapsed because of her indolence and failure to manage them well.
So as of September last year, Jim felt unsafe and uncomfortable after her endless harassment caused him to contract high blood pressure-and he filed for divorce at the Makindye magistrates court.
She got so angry with this divorce petition, which Jim justified on grounds that their endless quarreling (which even friends, relatives and Kizungu LC1 officials had failed to stop) wasn’t good for the couple’s children. She was angry that Jim had shared his concerns with relatives on both sides. She simply wanted to torment and mistreat him and he endures it all in silence.
Court was invited to determine whether any marriage between the two ever existed. He believes there was never any marriage between them because he only visited her parents once in Ntungamo and his view is that what existed between them was cohabitation and not marriage. Charlotte, who continues to forcefully live in the Kizungu home as if she has nowhere else to move on to, insists there was/is a marriage between them and not just cohabitation.
Like all Kampala tik tok queens, she knows well that if there was never a marriage between them, she will be walking away with nothing. In case, the magistrate rules existence of a marriage between them, Charlotte (whose mistreatment of Jim has angered many people) will still have to prove that she actually contributed to the man’s estate in order to be entitled to anything upon dissolution of the marriage.
The tik Toker, who could even struggle to buy food for herself and has had to use the children as a bait to continue being entitled to being housed, fed and generally sustained by Jim, did actually make no contribution to the Kizungu home or any of the things Jim, her estranged cohabitee, owns. In her court filings, she has only claimed personally being around and occasionally supervising when the boys’ quarters to the Kizungu house, were being constructed.
Last month, Jim who has repeatedly reported to police about people threatening to kill him for standing in Charlotte’s way, informed the magistrate during mediation at the magistrate court that he was sick and tired of unending feuding with the mother of his children, who he accused to toxicating and suffocating his Kizungu home.
He made it clear that even when there is no marriage to talk about and even when he is the one who has been wronged for all these years, he was ready to pay any price in order to get back his peace. He made it clear he was done with Charlotte who he swears he will never become interested in again, and all he wants is for her to totally quit so that he lives in peace-with only shared children upbringing remaining to be the only thing they can relate about. He badly wants to rebuild his life, which he says has badly been ruined because of emotional torture and mistreatment by Charlotte.
With support of the magistrate, he offered to take a loan from a bank and buy a mansion in any part of Kampala to enable Charlotte quit to go and live in it. The idea was that, in case of shared children custody, he doesn’t want his children to live in squalid conditions whenever it was Charlotte’s turn to live with them. Otherwise, he made it clear during mediation, he has no obligation whatsoever to do such a thing for his estranged cohabitee.
He also accepted to offer a top up of 70m besides the mansion so that Charlotte goes, leaves him along so that he begins on rebuilding his life which he says has greatly been ruined because of emotional torture and abusive treatment the mother of his children has subjected him to.
Charlotte, who relatives and friends believe is only interested in endless chaos and seeing Jim the father of her children live under permanent stress, flatly rejected all this.
She insisted that all she is interested in is the Kizungu house where she must continue living with Jim, the very man her friends led by her aunt Angel keep name-calling on tik tok while informing the whole world how he is such a terrible bad man who no woman can ever tolerate living with. Give us feedback on this story through our email: kamwokyatimes@gmail.com.
